Doing what's right for you

I had an interesting dilemma last night. You see I try and be all things to all people. To be generous of time and all giving to my parents and family. But something has been gnawing at this approach. Something has been gnawing at this level of expectation that I have created for myself and those around me. I think it's about the law of detachment and letting go, quite frankly how can you be all things to all people if you don't put yourself first? And I don't mean to the detriment of others. More so it is for the betterment of others that you put yourself first. ie. If I had agreed to my 'fathers' agenda I would have been annoyed that I had to 'cancel' an event that I, and my partner had been looking forward to for some time. I would have been 'resentful' that I was playing to 'his' schedule and not mine. This is where it pays to 'catch' yourself and take a moment to understand where the feeling or emotion is coming from, acknowledge it, understand it and take the best approach that is in alignment with what you want to create for yourself. I don't see it as ego management -although I am sure many would say that it is. I think it's more about stopping and smelling the roses and doing what feels right for you.

Namaste. Time to get a coffee.